Are your mornings crazy and hectic? Do you leave your home without everything that you need? Do difficult mornings make the rest of the day go miserably? Developing a good evening routine can change the tone for the next day.
If you create a routine that works for your family, it can help to eliminate the chaos that makes mornings miserable. A successful morning starts the night before.
Don’t let comparison rob you of a successful evening routine.
Your routine will not look like someone else’s or something that you found on Pinterest. It should be unique to yours and your family’s needs.
Stick with it until it sticks.
I am one of those “put off until later” people. I always have been. This is not helpful though, not to me or my family. Establishing a routine is a discipline until it becomes routine. Sometimes, I have had to make myself finish the tasks in my routine. Creating that habit is so beneficial.
I want to encourage you to stick with it! It does get better and you will be so happy that you did.
How to Kick Start Your Day with an Awesome Evening Routine:
Make sleep a priority.
Sleep should be more important to us than it is. We think we can run on less and less sleep. You have to have sleep.
I am so guilty of this! Running on fumes will cause burn out eventually, and is awful for your health! It will cause insomnia eventually.
When you set a realistic bedtime you may find in that you can’t go to sleep. Just push through this. You’ll be so much happier on the other side.
Set a realistic bedtime.
Your bedtime is going to be determined by your life. I would recommend that you go to bed by 10 pm. You can get up early and work before the kiddos get up or just get dressed and get your day started.
There are lots of things you can do in the morning to get a head start on your day.
- work on your side hustle or business
- take a shower and get ready
- meditate/ pray
- cook/ eat breakfast
If you have children that get up with you no matter how early, it can be a struggle. Mine has done this from time to time and it makes working nearly impossible.
I know everyone says to get up and work before your kids get up but mine know that I plan to get up early. I don’t tell them, they just know :).
One solution to this can be sleep training with a special alarm clock. It will change colors when it is ok for them to leave their room.
As with anything new, it may take several days or a few weeks to get this down. Training requires practice. You may have to sacrifice a few minutes of your time to establish the habit.
My four year old will go back to sleep if I put him back in bed. That tells me he’s not really ready to get up yet. That may have another solution for you too.
Keep it consistent.
Whatever time you set as your bedtime, that’s when you need to go bed.
Your body will develop a rhythm and naturally get tired and wake up at the same time, even without an alarm clock.
Work backward to your desired bedtime.
If you are staying up until 2 am, going to bed at 10 pm is going to be nearly impossible.
You have to fix this over time and here’s how. Make yourself get up earlier. 6 am may be a good starting place but choose the time that works for you.
Because you got up earlier, you will be tired earlier. That may not be at 10 pm but go to bed when you get tired.
Try to go to bed 15 minutes earlier every night or two until you work backward to your target time.
It’s also important to get physically tired. Go exercise or do something active.
Leverage your time by choosing the right tasks.
The tasks that you choose to include in your evening routine matter. It’s easy to get bogged down doing things that are not productive.
Choose tasks that will move your the farthest.
What are the pain points in your morning?
Ours is always breakfast.
I have found that if I will plan out breakfast the night before it helps tremendously.
You can also go one step farther and prep breakfast or cook it in advance.
Other places to get stuck in the morning is trying to decide what to wear. Have your children pick out their outfits for the week on Sunday. This cuts down on so much conflict in the morning.
Try it out.
Give your new routine a solid week before you change it up. If you have children, it may take a few tries for them to catch on. Sometimes it is just a matter of training.
Build a little extra time into your schedule to work with them on their part of the routine.
Make the necessary changes.
After a week of giving it a good honest try, change up with is not working and try something new.
Make a list of the tasks that are working and keep those. Then make a list of what is not working and try to figure out a solution.
Develop an evening routine checklist.
No matter if you prefer digital planning or paper planning, you need to write your routine list out somewhere.
My routines are printed out and on my clipboard in a page protector. Do whatever works best for you.
This may change from month to month.
My evening routine:
- lay out clothes for tomorrow
- clean the kitchen
- prep breakfast and lunch for tomorrow
- set up launch pad
- pick up the house
Our launch pad is a designated place where everything that needs to leave the house is at. This could be backpacks, a work bag, thrift store donations, mail, etc.
Each of these tasks are something that can and should be done by the entire family. The better we work together, the quicker we are finished.
We can sleep well knowing that we will not be scrambling to get out the door in the morning.
What Made the Difference
Don’t you love when you find something that helps you fix something that is not working?
Crystal Paine’s Make Over Your Evenings course has been a huge blessing to me. It has taught me how to identify the pain points and change them to make my days flow easier.
On top of that, it includes daily videos and a workbook with quick but effective assignments that help you get down to business. You get lifetime access so that you can go back through it as many times as you need to.
Crystal will teach you how to:
- establish a realistic evening routine that works
- design a prioritized to-do list for each day
- create a best stuff list
- eliminate calendar conflicts once and for all
- nourish your body, nurture your soul, and no longer put your health on the back burner
- assemble a wardrobe of simple outfits you love and that make you feel great
- develop a contagious, positive attitude
- stop sleepwalking through life
Crystal’s practical advice and encouragement have changed our evenings for the better. I know her course would benefit you too!
Having an evening routine is so beneficial to our family. If you don’t have an evening routine, I would encourage you to develop one. It will make such a difference!